CAVEAT 1: Prostitution can be dangerous, soul destroying and unlikely to earn you much money… Being an escort is no bed of roses

Just in case you’re new to the site and wondering why the hell this article exists, it’s because there is a lot of references to prostitution both as a reality, a fantasy and a possible source of finance. Before you go down that rabbit hole, we just want to establish what the empirical reality and statistics show…

Why Prostitution Is No Bed of Roses…

Prostitution might seem like a fast track to financial freedom, but the reality is often much bleaker. Sure, the allure of quick money can be tempting, but once you dig beneath the surface, the job is rife with challenges that can make it not just exhausting, but soul-crushing. Let’s break it down.

1. The Money Isn’t as Good as It Seems

It’s easy to picture piles of cash for minimal hours, but competition in the sex industry is fierce. The internet has created an oversaturated market, and standing out is a constant struggle. Between paying for advertising, transportation, outfits, and sometimes even paying off “managers” or bribes, your take-home isn’t the dream payday you imagined. And if you’re charging less to attract clients, you’re working more hours for diminishing returns.

2. Logistics Will Drive You Mad

Ever tried organizing your life around people who don’t show up? Or worse, text incessantly without booking? Welcome to the world of constant time-wasters. If you value your time, prepare to feel it slipping through your fingers while you wait on clients who cancel at the last minute or never appear at all. Time is money, and you lose both.

3. The People You Meet Can Be… Let’s Say, Difficult

For every pleasant, respectful client, there’s a parade of nasty ones. These range from entitled misogynists who think they’ve purchased your soul along with your time, to outright dangerous individuals who could harm you physically, emotionally, or financially. There’s no HR department to file complaints with, no protective buffer. It’s you, your instincts, and a prayer that nothing goes terribly wrong. You chances of getting beaten, raped or killed multiply the moment you become a prostitute.

4. Especially Hard for Transgender Escorts

If you’re transgender, the challenges multiply. While cisgender escorts might offer companionship or conversation alongside physical intimacy, the demand for trans escorts tends to focus almost exclusively on sex. That kind of one-dimensional expectation can feel dehumanizing, draining, and painful—both physically and emotionally. And the pool of potential clients? Smaller and often even more prone to disrespect.

5. The Legal Nightmare

Depending on where you are, prostitution might sit in a grey area or outright illegality. The risk of arrest, legal fees, or even being listed on a public offender registry looms constantly. Even in places where it’s legal, the associated stigma can follow you forever, making it harder to pivot to other careers or maintain personal relationships.

6. Your Soul Will Feel It

Let’s not sugarcoat this: prostitution can change you—and not for the better. You start seeing people as potential threats or transactions rather than individuals. You begin to doubt everyone’s motives. Paranoia creeps in, cynicism grows, and what was once an optimistic outlook becomes a skeptical, jaded shell. The work might start as “just a job,” but over time, it can erode your sense of trust and humanity.

The Reality Check

Prostitution isn’t a glamorous shortcut to financial success or freedom. It’s a high-stakes game that demands your time, energy, and emotional well-being, often leaving you with less than you started with. Before stepping into the industry, it’s worth asking: Is this path worth the toll it might take on your mind, body, and soul?

In the end, the grass might look greener, but it’s hiding some very sharp thorns. Think twice.

CAVEAT 2… Don’t let fear overcome you… but be aware – transition is no bed of roses!

Just in case you’re new to the site and wondering why the hell this article exists, it’s because there is a lot of references to transition both as a reality and a fantasy. Before you dive in, please consider the following…

Female Transition

Transitioning from male to female is a monumental decision, and for many, it’s absolutely the right one. When gender dysphoria demands resolution, transitioning can be life-saving. But for those diving in without fully considering the realities—or for reasons that might not hold up under scrutiny—it’s crucial to pause and think it through. Here’s a no-holds-barred look at the challenges ahead.


1. You’re Not Houdini: Male Features Are Hard to Disappear

Let’s be real: transitioning doesn’t come with a magic wand. Surgery and hormones can do a lot, but undoing years of testosterone’s handiwork is an uphill battle. Shoulders, rib cages, hands, feet—these don’t just shrink away because you’re taking estrogen or got a nose job. Many people assume they’ll emerge from the process as a dead ringer for Margot Robbie, but reality can be a sobering slap. Even the best surgeons can’t sculpt what isn’t there, and society doesn’t tell you this because they don’t want to hurt your feelings.


2. Once You Announce It, There’s No Easy Way Back

Transitioning has an “all-in” vibe. Once you’ve told the world and started the process, there’s immense pressure to follow through—even if doubt creeps in. Why? Because admitting you’re second-guessing the decision feels like failure. Family and friends might have already distanced themselves, bridges may be burned, and irreversible physical changes could make going back nearly impossible. Without a proper “get-out plan,” you could feel trapped in a choice you can’t undo.


3. Money, Honey: This Is Not Cheap

Transitioning is like buying a Ferrari—but without the resale value. Hormones, surgeries, wardrobe overhauls, voice training… it adds up fast. Think you’ll finance it with OnlyFans fame? That’s another myth to debunk. For many, the cost of transitioning creates long-term financial strain, especially when additional procedures are needed (because guess what? That first surgery doesn’t make everything perfect). It’s a money pit disguised as a path to happiness.


4. Life Changes Completely (and Not Always in the Ways You Hoped)

Transitioning doesn’t just change your body—it changes your whole world. Every outing becomes a potential “clocking” moment, where people notice or comment. Sometimes it’s subtle (sideways glances); other times, it’s not. If you’re not ready for the new challenges—stares, whispers, or worse—life post-transition can feel isolating.


5. The Health Complications Nobody Talks About

Taking hormones isn’t like popping vitamins. Long-term estrogen therapy can lead to health issues like blood clots, liver strain, and decreased bone density. Surgeries, too, come with risks: infections, complications, and the need for painful revisions. Nobody hands you a health manual for your new body, and you might discover challenges you weren’t expecting.


6. It’s Easy to Fool Yourself—Or Let Others Fool You

When you’re excited (or desperate), it’s easy to believe everything will go perfectly. Friends might encourage you with comments like, “You’ll be stunning!” because they don’t want to seem unsupportive. Surgeons sell dreams because, well, they make money doing so. But reality is far less glamorous. Being brutally honest with yourself about what’s possible versus what’s wishful thinking is vital.


7. Your Soul Needs a Backup Plan

In life, it’s wise to have an escape route for any major decision. Transitioning is no exception. But the nature of transition—permanent, public, expensive—makes it uniquely hard to backpedal if you ever need to. Before you go down this path, ask yourself: If I change my mind, do I have a way to land on my feet emotionally, socially, and financially? If the answer is “no,” rethink your timing.


It’s About Making the Right Decision, Not the Fastest One

Transitioning can be transformative, empowering, and the right choice for many. But for others, rushing in without fully grasping the stakes can lead to regret. Be clear-headed. Be cautious. And most importantly, be honest—with yourself and your future. Because while transitioning might change your life, it won’t magically solve every problem or erase every doubt.

CAVEAT 3… Don’t let fear overcome you… but be aware – surgery is no bed of roses!

ELLE: Watch this video from the point I’ve chosen…(It starts automatically at 1 min 46) then read my short post and comments on the video at the end.

Cosmetic surgery can be transformative. That’s an understatement.

Surgery can improve the quality of your life by improving the quality of your appearance. That’s definitely true, and this site is for women who believe this and are actively looking for, saving for and preparing for such surgeries.

However, part of that preperation is to educate yourself 100% on what you are about to do: the risks, the post operative care and the possible downsides. 

Do not take surgery lightly!

Even so-called minor procedures (in my opinion there is nothing involving body cutting, suction, filling, etc that is minor) can take months to recover from .Post-operative infection is always lurking in the background.

A lot of people don’t realize simple things like they won’t be able to sleep on their side for a long time, or do sport, or …. fill in the blank… every surgery has a long list of impeded post op activity. 

On the other hand, don’t let fear overcome you from this transformative step, just…

…don’t take it lightly!

Research is the key!

  • Research the clinic and surgeon. Some of those surgeons are smooth talkers i.e. good salesman. I fell for this when I was 19.
  • Research, research, research, and not just about the procedure itself, but the immediate week after the surgery, and then the months after, because those are the three distinct periods you need to know meticulously.
  • Then, research somebody who has done a video say one or two years post-op, and see how they talk about it. Were they expecting more, do they regret it, how has it benefited their life or has it detracted from their life?

 

Why Robin’s video is ilustrative

 

I chose this video because it catches perfectly most people’s experience with surgery. That in the end it will be worth it, but you will have to suffer to some degree.

If you are squeamish, but not resilient, or not prepared to suffer a bit, then don’t have surgery.

Finally, the other reason I chose this video is that it seems to me this girl suffered excessively. I must admit that I believe SRS is, even for a plastic surgery addict like myself, a bit too daunting. Without wanting to dictate anything to my students, because surgery is something very personal, I encourage my transgender friends and my students to focus on parts of their body which are visible to the outside world.

Robin makes very clear how this surgery did not answer the problems that came with being transgender, and of course this can often be the way with surgery, but I do ask you to consider what is the most likely thing to boost your female energy and power: a beautiful face, altered by surgery, or something down below which very few people will ever see? I repeat, surgery is personal so do with this advice what you want, but that is my belief.